Lesson Learned

What do you think a father is? Can a mother also be father or vise versa? How does this affect you as a person? Learning about life lessons happen everyday. When you think about a father and a daughter, you see daddy’s little girl running to him for comfort or support. That doesn’t happen for everyone or at least not for me. Learning that a father is not just a male figure has been painful and pleasurable because my mom is both my father and mother.

A father is someone you can run to for support or someone you can sweet talk. A father is someone who can help you with your homework and make everything feel better. A father is supposed to be the man of the house. A father is overprotective when you bring a boy over for the first time. A father is always there for his family no matter what. A father isn’t just a male. My father was never there for my brother and me.

A mother can be a father too. My mom is my father and mother. Unfortunately, my father was never any of the things described earlier. My mom was the only thing my twin brother and I had. Seeing my father for the first time, when I was 16 was the most painful lessons learned. Not only did he not acknowledge my mom and I but didn’t just walked by as if he didn’t know who we were. Sometimes one parent is a lot better than two. If I could go back in time and change time so my mom and dad would still be together I wouldn’t. Things are perfect the way they are and my mother will be a more of a father to me than he ever would’ve been.

Growing up without a father is harder than it seems. You’re a little girl and the only one you can run to is mommy who is your daddy too. Attending school probably was the hardest thing to do because everyone asks you “who are your parents?” I always had to say “I only have my mom.” As I grow and keep learning about these lessons in life I remember that not everyone is as fortunate as I am to at least have one parent.